Maryann – We really have a lot in common both with the loss of 2 unborn children, infertility and the roller coaster with many of the things you mentioned – failed IVF treatments, 2 ectopics, one with life-threatening surgery because it ruptured, etc. After way too much trauma, our new doctor said to Lynne “your body has had enough – maybe you should consider adoption”. We went home that day and Lynne called her sister and said “we want to adopt”. Within a week we found that her daughter had a friend in high school who and was 7 months pregnant was considering adoption! We met within the week and got a call the next day with this message - “tell your sister that she has a baby”. We have remained in an open relationship with his birthmom and her family who also had 3 more children.
When we got married we had decided that we wanted to have a child and adopt a child - somehow we knew. Also, only many years later after we adopted did we discover that our doctor had facilitated over 25 adoptions! It seems this was going to happen one way or another – there was a Plan. Our son is now 29 years old and is just amazing. Also so happy for you that things turned out so well for you. We can only imagine the heartbreak of the failed adoptions – we held our breath until the Judge said that the adoption was final – she could have changed her mind for up to 6 months. It’s so wonderful that you have helped 19 children and because of that you were able to adopt. Thank you for sharing all this – it does help to make this loss lighter. Our best to you and your family and best wishes for the holiday season.
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